Hey everyone.. How are we all doing?
Recently I was talking to a really good friend of mine who is about twice my age. Loll.
I know it is abit weird but it is important to have really older friends as well.
I find their approach to life and all its hustles different in a good way and most times wiser as it mostly comes from a place of genuine (usually parental kind of) love, honesty and most importantly experience..
So, having not spoken for a really long time, we were catching up and somehow our conversation drifted to one-sided friendships.
Me having ever experienced a friendship I considered to be one-sided started complaining about why people just can’t be committed to friendships as much as some are, how people just can’t be as loyal, or as caring or concerned as the other person is. I went on and on and on basically criticising people who don’t take friendships “seriously”.
He listened quietly and patiently.When I was through he spoke, and what he said, kept me silent for a moment as I pondered on them..
People are different and are wired different, and it manifests when they pass through different stages in their lives. Maybe they are at one of those stages.
The thing about friendship is, if you want it to last, you must learn to hold different people with different standards.
If that is the kind of person they are or have become, then let them and just take it that that’s what you will expect from them.
You should never try to judge people by your own standards.
These words, simple as they are, spoke volumes to me because I am guilty of judging people by my standards..
Not everyone can love the way you love, care the way you care, commit the way you commit. We are different.
We have our standards, and no one else can have the same standards as you do.
Don’t try to fix someone basing on what’s right to you.
If despite everything, things don’t just seem to work out, accept them as they are, let it be and move on.
Sometimes you have to let some people out of your inner circle but still keep them as friends because it is not that you have to keep people off completely everytime.. Sometimes, you fight for them until you get them back, sometimes, you keep them, but love them from a distance this time.
There will always be more friendships to be made.